Queer Agenda Coaching
Joey Casey & Jose Montilla
Queer Agenda Coaching
Joey Casey & Jose Montilla
Your body is falling apart. Your mental health is worse.
Exhausted, lonely, pretending you have it together.
Travel-Proof Fitness • Evidence-Based Nutrition • Trauma Work That Actually Heals For Real Life
FOR GAY & TRANS PROFESSIONAL MEN ON THE MOVE,
USING OUR 3-S METHOD TO TRANSFORMATION
FOR GAY & TRANS PROFESSIONAL MEN ON THE MOVE, USING OUR 3-S METHOD TO TRANSFORMATION
Your body’s on one continent, your brain’s on another and your emotions never made it past baggage claim!
Your fitness routine falls apart every time you travel
Your body feels like its failing you—and you have no idea how to build strength while living out of suitcases
Nutrition is a guessing game. You are either restricting obsessively or eating like shit because it's easier.
Work, Grindr, scrolling, drinking: you will do anything to avoid sitting with the emotions
You perform a sanitized version of yourself in every meeting, every networking event, every "unsafe" space
The loneliness is relentless; hotel rooms, new cities, another night alone pretending you are ok
For trans men, the bathroom is still a source of genuine fear: you sacrifice a workout just to avoid the anxiety of being clocked, confronted, or misgendered.
The religious trauma, the family shame, the years of hiding; it's all still there, suffocating you
Stop trying to fix a past you didn't choose. You need someone who gets it—really gets it—and a system built for your actual real life as a gay or trans man
Your body’s on one continent, your brain’s on another and your emotions never made it past baggage claim!
Your fitness routine falls apart every time you travel
Your body feels like its failing you—and you have no idea how to build strength while living out of suitcases
Nutrition is a guessing game. You are either restricting obsessively or eating like shit because it's easier.
Work, Grindr, scrolling, drinking: you will do anything to avoid sitting with the emotions
You perform a sanitized version of yourself in every meeting, every networking event, every "unsafe" space
The loneliness is relentless; hotel rooms, new cities, another night alone pretending you are ok
For trans men, the bathroom is still a source of genuine fear: you sacrifice a workout just to avoid the anxiety of being clocked, confronted, or misgendered.
The religious trauma, the family shame, the years of hiding; it's all still there, suffocating you
Stop trying to fix a past you didn't choose. You need someone who gets it—really gets it—and a system built for your actual real life as a gay or trans man
Does this sound familiar?
Your body’s on one continent, your brain’s on another, and your emotions never made it past baggage claim!
Your fitness routine falls apart every time you travel
Your body feels like its failing you—and you have no idea how to build strength while living out of suitcases
Nutrition is a guessing game. You are either restricting obsessively or eating like shit because it's easier.
Work, Grindr, scrolling, drinking: you will do anything to avoid sitting with the emotions
You perform a sanitized version of yourself in every meeting, every networking event, every "unsafe" space
The loneliness is relentless; hotel rooms, new cities, another night alone pretending you are ok
For trans men, the bathroom is still a source of genuine fear: you sacrifice a workout just to avoid the anxiety of being clocked, confronted, or misgendered.
The religious trauma, the family shame, the years of hiding; it's all still there, suffocating you
Stop trying to fix a past you didn't choose. You need someone who gets it—really gets it—and a system built for your actual real life as a gay or trans man
So why are you still trapped in your own head?
You keep saying you want more… but maybe the real question is: do you even believe you deserve it?
How much of your ambition is built on shame?
When did “keeping it together” become easier than being real?
What would happen if the parts of you that are soft, messy, or visibly queer were allowed to exist without hiding?
What is the expiration date on your current coping mechanisms before the whole thing collapses?
How much of your ambition is built on shame?
When did “keeping it together” become easier than being real?
What would happen if the parts of you that are soft, messy, or visibly queer were allowed to exist without hiding?
What is the expiration date on your current coping mechanisms before the whole thing collapses?
You already know this: Work and travel won't heal your trauma. Hookups won't fill the loneliness. The gym won't fix internalized shame.
So why are you still trapped in your own head?
You keep saying you want more… but maybe the real question is: do you even believe you deserve it?
How much of your ambition is built on shame?
When did “keeping it together” become easier than being real?
What would happen if the parts of you that are soft, messy, or visibly queer were allowed to exist without hiding?
What is the expiration date on your current coping mechanisms before the whole thing collapses?
You already know this: Work and travel won't heal your trauma. Hookups won't fill the loneliness. The gym won't fix internalized shame.
now imagine this
now imagine this
A future version of you—strong, muscular, actually happy.
A future version of you—strong, muscular, actually happy.
He walks into any room and feels at home in his own skin
He understands nutrition. Macros make sense. His body is fuelled, not starved.
Travel doesn't destroy his routine anymore (even a bumpy Ryanair flight)
The trauma is processed. The shame & fear don’t control him.
Being gay or trans isn't something he hides—it's just who he is
That version of you isn't fantasy. He's waiting on the other side of the work you keep avoiding.
now imagine this
now imagine this
A future version of you—strong, muscular, actually happy.
A future version of you—strong, muscular, actually happy.
He walks into any room and feels at home in his own skin
He understands nutrition. Macros make sense. His body is fuelled, not starved.
Travel doesn't destroy his routine anymore (even a bumpy Ryanair flight)
The trauma is processed. The shame & fear don’t control him.
Being gay or trans isn't something he hides—it's just who he is
That version of you isn't fantasy. He's waiting on the other side of the work you keep avoiding.
The path to real transformation
Nutrition
Sustainable, delicious recipes to grow strong muscles. Build your meal plans & macros in the app and become a food labels pro. No fad diets or silly restrictions.
Mindset shift
Untangle the self-hatred & beliefs that you are not good enough or ‘man enough’. We build your identity & give you tools to deal with the trauma.
Consistency & accountability
You are not doing this alone. Guidance & structure keeps you moving forward as you build your personal queer agenda.
Life changing transformation
Your body changes physically, emotionally and mentally. Confidence & resilience grows. You learn to show up for yourself & avoid toxic people. Be proud of the gay or trans man you see in your reflection.
Progressive overload
Grow your muscle building agenda with full knowledge of sets, reps, techniques, injury prevention and various exercises. Become your own transformation coach for life as you pack on muscle.
The path to real transformation
Nutrition
Sustainable, delicious recipes to grow strong muscles. Build your meal plans & macros in the app and become a food labels pro. No fad diets or silly restrictions.
Mindset shift
Untangle the self-hatred & beliefs that you are not good enough or ‘man enough’. We build your identity & give you tools to deal with the trauma.
Consistency & accountability
You are not doing this alone. Guidance & structure keeps you moving forward as you build your personal queer agenda.
Consistency & accountability
You are not doing this alone. Guidance & structure keeps you moving forward as you build your personal queer agenda.
Life changing transformation
Your body changes physically, emotionally and mentally. Confidence & resilience grows. You learn to show up for yourself & avoid toxic people. Be proud of the gay or trans man you see in your reflection.
Progressive overload
Grow your muscle building agenda with full knowledge of sets, reps, techniques, injury prevention and various exercises. Become your own transformation coach for life as you pack on muscle.
Progressive overload
Grow your muscle building agenda with full knowledge of sets, reps, techniques, injury prevention and various exercises. Become your own transformation coach for life as you pack on muscle.
What others are saying
It's not about the physical transformation. The mindset coaching I received along side my workout plan changed how I viewed fitness and life. I'm more disciplines and motivated in everything I do. Highly Recommend!
As a trans guy, I didn't expect a transformation program to help with my mental health, but this one did. The structure, the mindset work, the education on nutrition and training. It all came together in a way that just clicked. Joey really listened and we had great calls every week. He knows his stuff!
I am three months into the program and considering signing up a bit longer. Joey is being very helpful and patient, getting me through the workout alone at the gym and ignoring all the negative silly voices in my head. Who cares if the muscle guys are staring at me! He also helped with food ideas and broadened my recipies.
ABOUT US
JOEY CASEY
My name is Joey Casey, and I'm from Dublin, Ireland. That's my husband José below, the Venezuelan guy with the smile that still makes my heart skip a beat. But long before José and I found each other and created The Queer Agenda, I was drowning.
I was 52kg of anxiety and shame. An emotional wreck who could only feel confident with alcohol coursing through my veins on nights out. I couldn't look at myself in the mirror without feeling disgust. The insecurities and self-loathing were suffocating me.
Then solo travel and stepping into a gym for the first time cracked something open in me; a brutal, necessary wake-up call. I moved to Shanghai for 5 years, and teaching English while helping people with their fitness became more than a job; it became my lifeline. For the first time in my life, I felt like I mattered. Like I was worthy of taking up space in this world.
Teaching evolved into coaching when I realized I wasn't alone. So many gay professionals were drowning in the same darkness; battling mental health demons, desperate to build muscle, suffocated by homophobic families, lost when it came to proper nutrition.
As I travelled across Asia, and later with José through South America, I couldn't unsee it anymore. The patterns were everywhere: crushing low confidence, deep body shame, beliefs that kept us small, limited access to quality food or decent gyms.
That's when The Queer Agenda was born, because I finally understood. I had lived it. I knew that pain intimately. Do I still have days where I doubt myself as a coach? Absolutely. Days where the old insecurities whisper that I'm not enough? Of course. But I use every fitness and mental tool I've learned over the years to push through that noise and keep showing up, for José, for my clients, and most importantly, for myself.
MA in International Education | BA in English & History | Diploma in Life Coaching
Qualified Personal Trainer | Diploma in Nutrition | Certified Gym Instructor
ABOUT US
JOEY CASEY
My name is Joey Casey, and I'm from Dublin, Ireland. That's my husband José below, the Venezuelan guy with the smile that still makes my heart skip a beat. But long before José and I found each other and created The Queer Agenda, I was drowning.
I was 52kg of anxiety and shame. An emotional wreck who could only feel confident with alcohol coursing through my veins on nights out. I couldn't look at myself in the mirror without feeling disgust. The insecurities and self-loathing were suffocating me.
Then solo travel and stepping into a gym for the first time cracked something open in me; a brutal, necessary wake-up call. I moved to Shanghai for 5 years, and teaching English while helping people with their fitness became more than a job; it became my lifeline. For the first time in my life, I felt like I mattered. Like I was worthy of taking up space in this world.
Teaching evolved into coaching when I realized I wasn't alone. So many gay professionals were drowning in the same darkness; battling mental health demons, desperate to build muscle, suffocated by homophobic families, lost when it came to proper nutrition.
As I travelled across Asia, and later with José through South America, I couldn't unsee it anymore. The patterns were everywhere: crushing low confidence, deep body shame, beliefs that kept us small, limited access to quality food or decent gyms.
That's when The Queer Agenda was born, because I finally understood. I had lived it. I knew that pain intimately. Do I still have days where I doubt myself as a coach? Absolutely. Days where the old insecurities whisper that I'm not enough? Of course. But I use every fitness and mental tool I've learned over the years to push through that noise and keep showing up, for José, for my clients, and most importantly, for myself.
MA in International Education | BA in English & History | Diploma in Life Coaching
Qualified Personal Trainer | Diploma in Nutrition | Certified Gym Instructor
JOSE MONTILLA
Hi, I'm José. I'm from Venezuela.
I grew up in a country where being gay wasn't just unacceptable, it was dangerous. And my family? They made it crystal clear that who I really was could never exist in their world.
So, I lived a lie. Every single day. Policing every word, every gesture, every glance. Performing straightness like my life depended on it, because in many ways, it did. The weight of that mask became unbearable.
At 30, I made the hardest decision of my life: I left everything behind. I told myself I was looking for a better future, but the truth? I was searching for myself. I just wanted to be happy. I wanted to breathe. I wanted to be a gay man without apologizing for it.
I landed in Ireland. It was supposed to be for one year. But for the first time in my life, I felt safe. I was accepted for who I was. I didn't have to pretend, perform, or hide. That year stretched into over 10 years.
But the ghost followed me. My family still refused to believe me, to accept me, to see me. The rejection carved itself deep into my bones. And it still hurts, because it never really stops hurting, does it?
Then I met Joey in Dublin. It was supposed to be just a Grindr hookup, nothing serious. But from the moment we connected, something shifted. I felt it. Trust. Safety. Someone who saw me.
We shared the same scars, past demons that still whispered in the dark, a desperate thirst for adventure, and the exhausting fight for acceptance in a world that's constantly trying to push us down. We became each other's lifeline. We complement each other in ways I didn't know were possible.
As we travelled the world together, we couldn't unsee it, gay and trans men everywhere, struggling with the same suffocating pain. Strong on the outside but cracking apart on the inside. Screaming silently for help.
That's why we created The Queer Agenda. You are not alone. We see you. We've been you. We're here to support you, but only if you want to change. Only you can take that first step. And when you do? We'll be right there with you.
MS in Project Management | Professional Diploma in Strategic Management in Financial Services | BS degree in Computer Science
JOSE MONTILLA
Hi, I'm José. I'm from Venezuela.
I grew up in a country where being gay wasn't just unacceptable, it was dangerous. And my family? They made it crystal clear that who I really was could never exist in their world.
So, I lived a lie. Every single day. Policing every word, every gesture, every glance. Performing straightness like my life depended on it, because in many ways, it did. The weight of that mask became unbearable.
At 30, I made the hardest decision of my life: I left everything behind. I told myself I was looking for a better future, but the truth? I was searching for myself. I just wanted to be happy. I wanted to breathe. I wanted to be a gay man without apologizing for it.
I landed in Ireland. It was supposed to be for one year. But for the first time in my life, I felt safe. I was accepted for who I was. I didn't have to pretend, perform, or hide. That year stretched into over 10 years.
But the ghost followed me. My family still refused to believe me, to accept me, to see me. The rejection carved itself deep into my bones. And it still hurts, because it never really stops hurting, does it?
Then I met Joey in Dublin. It was supposed to be just a Grindr hookup, nothing serious. But from the moment we connected, something shifted. I felt it. Trust. Safety. Someone who saw me.
We shared the same scars, past demons that still whispered in the dark, a desperate thirst for adventure, and the exhausting fight for acceptance in a world that's constantly trying to push us down. We became each other's lifeline. We complement each other in ways I didn't know were possible.
As we travelled the world together, we couldn't unsee it, gay and trans men everywhere, struggling with the same suffocating pain. Strong on the outside but cracking apart on the inside. Screaming silently for help.
That's why we created The Queer Agenda. You are not alone. We see you. We've been you. We're here to support you, but only if you want to change. Only you can take that first step. And when you do? We'll be right there with you.
MS in Project Management | Professional Diploma in Strategic Management in Financial Services | BS degree in Computer Science
JOSE
Hi, I'm José. I'm from Venezuela.
I grew up in a country where being gay wasn't just unacceptable, it was dangerous. And my family? They made it crystal clear that who I really was could never exist in their world.
So, I lived a lie. Every single day. Policing every word, every gesture, every glance. Performing straightness like my life depended on it, because in many ways, it did.
The weight of that mask became unbearable.
At 30, I made the hardest decision of my life: I left everything behind. I told myself I was looking for a better future, but the truth? I was searching for myself. I just wanted to be happy. I wanted to breathe. I wanted to be a gay man without apologizing for it.
I landed in Ireland. It was supposed to be for one year. But for the first time in my life, I felt safe. I was accepted for who I was. I didn't have to pretend, perform, or hide. That year stretched into over 10 years.
But the ghost followed me. My family still refused to believe me, to accept me, to see me. The rejection carved itself deep into my bones. And it still hurts, because it never really stops hurting, does it?
Then I met Joey in Dublin. It was supposed to be just a Grindr hookup, nothing serious. But from the moment we connected, something shifted. I felt it. Trust. Safety. Someone who saw me.
We shared the same scars, past demons that still whispered in the dark, a desperate thirst for adventure, and the exhausting fight for acceptance in a world that's constantly trying to push us down.
We became each other's lifeline. We complement each other in ways I didn't know were possible.
As we travelled the world together, we couldn't unsee it, gay and trans men everywhere, struggling with the same suffocating pain. Strong on the outside but cracking apart on the inside. Screaming silently for help.
That's why we created The Queer Agenda.
You are not alone. We see you. We've been you.
We're here to support you, but only if you want to change. Only you can take that first step.
And when you do? We'll be right there with you.
MA in Project Management | Professional Diploma in Strategic Management in Financial Services | BA degree in Computer Science
Here’s how we make it work
Apply for coaching.
Not everyone is a match. Apply today and within 24 hours you will know if you have secured a spot on our coaching program.
After your acceptance email, book your complimentary 60-min deep coaching experience call to dive into your goals and draw up a path forward.
Chose your exclusive program:
Invest in a 3, 6 or 12 month personalised transformation program, outlined below
Start building your agenda with our 3-S Method:
Training, muscles, meals, recipes, community, mindset and mental health techniques, all built together for you.
Here’s how we make it work
Apply for coaching.
Not everyone is a match. Apply today and within 24 hours you will know if you have secured a spot on our coaching program.
After your acceptance email, book your complimentary 60-min deep coaching experience call to dive into your goals and draw up a path forward.
Chose your exclusive program:
Invest in a 3, 6 or 12 month personalised transformation program, outlined below
Start building your agenda with our 3-S Method:
Training, muscles, meals, recipes, community, mindset and mental health techniques, all built together for you.
Imagine transforming your travel schedule from a problem into a perfected art.
See how the 3-S Method works. Click below.
Imagine transforming your travel schedule from a problem into a perfected art.
See how the 3-S Method works. Click below.
Here’s how we make it work
STEP 1
Apply for coaching. Not everyone is a match. Apply for coaching and within 24 hours you will know if you have secured a spot on our coaching program.
STEP 2
Book your complimentary 60-min discovery call to dive into your goals.
STEP 3
The religious trauma, the family shame, the years of hiding; it's all still there, suffocating you
STEP 4
Start building your agenda: Training, muscles, meals, recipes, community, mindset and mental health techniques, all built together for you.
YOUR INVESTMENT PACKAGES
Select an agenda below or message us to design your own
3 months (€3,100)
The essential 90-day foundation. Build the systems to transform your body, begin to master your nutrition, and process the trauma holding you back.
6 months (€4,500)
Six months to stop patching the cracks. This is where we move from just getting by to thriving. You won't just feel different; you will start living differently, every damn day.
12 months (€8,500)
The full year. A complete lifestyle overhall. You become the architect of your own body & mind with the tools & skills to continue your journey alone.
YOUR INVESTMENT PACKAGES
Select an agenda below or message us to design your own
3 months (€3,100)
The essential 90-day foundation. Build the systems to transform your body, begin to master your nutrition, and process the trauma holding you back.
6 months (€4,500)
Six months to stop patching the cracks. This is where we move from just getting by to thriving. You won't just feel different; you will start living differently, every damn day.
12 months (€8,500)
The essential 90-day foundation. Build the systems to transform your body, begin to master your nutrition, and process the trauma holding you back.
YOUR HAND LUGGAGE WILL HAVE
Workouts designed for any environment: including gyms that trigger dysphoria, hotel rooms where training alone feels safer and how to train with limited tools (yes a bag of sugar can be a bicep curl)
Nutrition that work globally: Recognise how to fuel your body with carbs, protein, fats & fibre to grow muscle (Note: banana’s are flagged at airport scanners).
Macro-based meal plans, personal ingredients list & food label pro for any city; even the ones where being visibly queer at brunch feels like a political statement
Trauma processing for religious abuse, family estrangement, conversion therapy aftermath, the years you spent hiding who you are & dealing with that one family member who still ‘doesn’t get it’.
A global directory of LGBT-safe gyms, queer community spaces, trans-friendly doctors, recovery meetings (NA/AA), and places where you don't have to perform straightness to stay safe ✓
Real strategies for navigating loneliness as a queer man, dysphoria, internalized transphobia/homophobia, and the mental load of ‘am I too gay’ in stifling corporate spaces or airports in Dubai, Singapore and Riyadh.
Lifetime access to your Queer Agenda vault: training systems, macro education, mindset tools, and a network built specifically for gay and trans professionals on the move.
Access to a gay coach who fully gets it & is on your side.
YOUR HAND LUGGAGE WILL HAVE
Workouts designed for any environment: including gyms that trigger dysphoria, hotel rooms, where training alone feels safer , offcies and exercise with limited tools (yes a bag of sugar can be a bicep curl)
Nutrition that works globally: Recognise how to fuel your body with carbs, protein, fats & fibre to grow muscle (Note: banana’s are flagged at airport scanners).
Macro-based meal plans, personal ingredients list & food label pro for any city; even the ones where being visibly queer at brunch feels like a political statement.
Trauma processing for religious abuse, family estrangement, conversion therapy aftermath, the years you spent hiding who you are & dealing with that one family member who still ‘doesn’t get it’.
A global directory of LGBT-safe gyms, queer community spaces, trans-friendly doctors, recovery meetings (NA/AA), and places where you don't have to perform straightness to stay safe
Real strategies for navigating loneliness as a queer man, dysphoria, internalized transphobia/homophobia, and the mental load of ‘am I too gay’ in stifling corporate spaces or airports in Dubai, Singapore and Riyadh.
Lifetime access to your Queer Agenda vault: training systems, macro education, mindset tools, and a network built specifically for gay and trans professionals on the move.
Access to a gay coach who fully gets it & is on your side.
Workoutsdesigned for any environment: including gyms that trigger dysphoria, hotel rooms where training alone feels safer and how to train with limited tools (yes a bag of sugar can be a bicep curl)
Nutrition that work globally: Recognise how to fuel your body with carbs, protein, fats & fibre to grow muscle (Note: banana’s are flagged at airport scanners).
Macro-based meal plans, personal ingredients list & food label pro for any city; even the ones where being visibly queer at brunch feels like a political statement
Trauma processing for religious abuse, family estrangement, conversion therapy aftermath, the years you spent hiding who you are & dealing with that one family member who still ‘doesn’t get it’.
A global directory of LGBT-safe gyms, queer community spaces, trans-friendly doctors, recovery meetings (NA/AA), and places where you don't have to perform straightness to stay safe ✓
Real strategies for navigating loneliness as a queer man, dysphoria, internalized transphobia/homophobia, and the mental load of ‘am I too gay’ in stifling corporate spaces or airports in Dubai, Singapore and Riyadh.
Lifetime access to your Queer Agenda vault: training systems, macro education, mindset tools, and a network built specifically for gay and trans professionals on the move.
Access to a gay coach who fully gets it & is on your side.
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What others are saying
I run my own company so finding time to eat and exercise were a challenge. Joey created a solid plan for me and we changed my weekly routine to include weight training and eating well, quick healthy meal ideas and snacks for between meetings.
As someone who dealt with disordered eating and body image issues in the past, I was hesitant to jump into another fitness program but I found a safe space with Joey, my wonderful gay coach! I started small, just logging meals and going to the gym a couple of times a week but eventually built up to full-body strength training and even designed my own 4-day split. The recipes made healthy eating exciting instead of stressful.
I met Joey when he started out as a PT. He listens well and pays attention during our sessions, correcting my form. He has a friendly manner. I enjoyed the classes.
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